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Hi Jillian,
I cannot tell you how excited I am about reading your book. I read a review in one of the girlie mags over the weekend and made a note to go for a jaunt to the bookstore to pick up a copy. Only to find that it hasn't been released yet and when inquired, I was told, "I dunno". How helpful! At any rate, I googled you and now I'm blogging to you.
To tell you the truth, I never was a big fan of Valentine's Day, so, to me, regardless of the fact that I am currently single or even when I am not, I don't celebrate V Day. To me, premeditated, calculated attempts at romanticizing ones partners never appealled to me. I have always found the best gifts to receive are things homemade, creative, thoughtful, thought provoking ones...like remembering I love a particular, unusual thing or taking the time to write something special. I once had a boyfriend who knew and appreciated this little "Jennism" and when he was away, instead of buying me some random piece of tourist crap, he brought me back seashells and a homemade craft thingie that he learnt how to make. It didn't matter that it was ugly and useless in purpose but he made it with me in mind, with that being the purpose. How special was that?
So, there you have it. Where you'll be able to find me come next Tuesday will be like any other Tuesday, except for one small thing...I'll have your book to read! :)

Posted By: Jen Pountney  |  Tuesday Feb 07, 2006 11:00 PM   Top

My views on Valentine's Day stem from the views of my parents, who have been married for 32 years. To this day if my mother receives a card from my father on V-Day she is ecstatic and in the 36 years that they have been together she has never received anything more. My father does not take my mother out to dinner on February 14 instead he takes her out and appreciates her all year long, he doesn?t need Hallmark to tell him when to do that. My question to the women I have encountered who don?t agree with him and believe they deserve something more on V-Day is, ?if your man doesn?t appreciate you on a regular basis then why is he your man?? Don?t get me wrong, I am not anti-Valentine?s Day, I enjoy the fake holiday, as a child and even a teenager Valentine?s Day meant pink and red cookies from my Mom and fancy family dinner that evening. When I moved out of my parents? house Valentine?s Day then meant it was time for me and my single friends to make our own fancy dinner at our own place. Today with my boyfriend of 2+ years who has hated Valentine?s Day since the day I met him is just starting to come around. We make funny V-Day cards for each other even though he can?t draw a straight line and every year I make a gift basket for him filled with anything red I can find from tee shirts and candy to sex lotions and of course I make a fancy dinner for him that night, which could be burgers and fries as long as we have candles it?s fancy.

Posted By: L  |  Wednesday Feb 08, 2006 10:26 AM   Top

While in my twenties, I placed great value on this day. I was excited to plan something wonderful if I had a boyfriend, and hoped he was doing the same for me. Now, in my thirties, I've come to realize that men do feel a great deal of pressure to please their girlfriends on this holiday, and I'd much rather a boyfriend give me a card, flowers, or a gift on a non-holiday to express how he feels. I will know he's responding to his emotions, rather than to the pressure to express them!

Posted By: Eve  |  Wednesday Feb 08, 2006 11:36 AM   Top

Nancy and I are very excited for you! We're looking forward to catching up.

Posted By: Mark Solls  |  Wednesday Feb 08, 2006 12:05 PM   Top

Flowers. At work. That would be awesome. It would make my otherwise less-than-desirable desk look beautiful and everyone would gush over how lucky I am to have such a thoughtful boyfriend. But what would be better? For him to do on a totally random day. Valentine's Day is just a commercial holiday that takes advantage of our desire to be shown love in material form. Or rather, has made us desire love in material form. Those commercials for jewelry where the child tells their mommy that daddy said he loves her and she says, "I know!" and shows the child the necklace her husband bought for her make her want to barf. "Oh, so because he bought you that means he loves you? Right." I wish it worked that way.
This year, we happen to be going on a skiing trip with 12 other people on the weekend prior to V-Day (which I always think sounds ominously like D-Day), so we're counting that trip as our present to each other. It's nice to have a day to show each other how much you mean to one another, but I don't think that needs to be through material means.

Posted By: Nicole  |  Wednesday Feb 08, 2006 12:46 PM   Top

If I had a girlfriend right now, I would be feeling the pressure of "Did I do enough" to satisfy the Hallmark inspired Valoentine's day obligation. Plus I did just go out on two dates with someone and VD day is next week. I am not sure whether to ask her or am I send a stronger message regarding my feelings for her, then I want to. And finally, I like to make any woman in my life, feel that everyday is valentine's day when dating me. So that she does not have to wait for a Hallmark card to feel secure.

Posted By: Jim Hausman  |  Wednesday Feb 08, 2006 05:23 PM   Top

Jillian, I can't wait to read your book! I completely relate to everything that I've read about it so far. I'm almost 30 (March) and single, and I've been thinking a lot lately about the things that you write about. As for Valentine's Day, I honestly view it as a Hallmark Holiday - an opportunity to sell chocolates and candy and to make single women feel bad about themselves. When I was younger (and single), it used to upset me to be single on Valentine's Day. But now, my thoughts on Valentine's Day are that it's just another day. I mean honestly - the last thing I want is a guy who will shower me with gifts and affection on Valentine's Day and then ignore me or treat me like crap for the remaining 364 days.

Posted By: Lisa  |  Thursday Feb 09, 2006 12:52 PM   Top

Jillian, I work in a big office that's 90% women, and they're always trying to marry me off. One of the ladies sent me an excerpt of your book last night, and I was so intrigued, I had to run out and buy it. GOOD READ!

Posted By: Ken  |  Friday Feb 10, 2006 07:20 PM   Top

Valentine's Day, well this Valentine's, last Valentine's and yup the previous to that Valentine's I was single. At 33,Valentines's to me doesn't mean I don't celebrate. I share my Valentine's with close friends. Yes, it would be nice to have a cupid of my own but I haven't found anyone strong enough to carry my bow and arrow. Gifts are nice, both in receiving and giving. I used to and still do love making goodie bags of chocolate and hearts for special ppl in my life. And Valentine's is a time for ppl to tell me they love me too. If something encourages sometime to tell you they love you then if it only happens for one day that's great(I agreed is should happen more but we are all not that same)Jullian, I can't wait to read you book. I was a the book store flipping through a magazine when I read an article introducing your book. Yet, sad to learn that it has not been released yes. It seems to come a a perfect time.

Posted By: Sandrawithlove  |  Saturday Feb 11, 2006 10:26 PM   Top

I saw you on the "Today Show" and was impressed with what I heard. if this book is what I think it is most people who would want to read it probably have some idea of "getting it". I've done a treamendous amount of work on myself in the last five years but still struggle meeting the right people. I live in a smaller city where it seems most intellectual talented people move away. Any ideas on how like minded people sharing thoughts on this material can actually meet each other? It's about time someone confronted immediate gratification and challenging people to look at themselves. I'm glad you're doing this outloud, I've not seen this from anyone else. Good Luck with your book.

Posted By: Adam  |  Sunday Feb 12, 2006 03:17 PM   Top

I personally never take valentine day seriously...at all. if i happened to be in a relationship where the man gave me flowers, etc...i wouldn't refuse for sure...but neither do i feel a flush of romance in it. It happened that last year in january i started dating a man and we had a normal dinner in a nice restaurant, but there wasn't a single air of romance in it which i was thankful for. truthfully...it would've embarassed me to death...if anyone makes such a valentine romantic gesture. so i like to think that one can decide which day in a year they want to make it super special..not on a day such as this valentine...where it almost becomes like a national universal lovers and love day. but if some people enjoy such celebration as valentine..then so be it...it won't hurt either. some people can be so natural when it comes to valentine's day or expectant when the day approaches. some people may feel awkward about it...and i'm one of those people.
and as the subject is about valentine's day...i wish you all happy valentine's day.

Posted By: lucy  |  Tuesday Feb 14, 2006 06:06 AM   Top

Jillian! Applause, applause! I picked up your book yesterday because my Valentine (my dad) gave me a $25 gift certificate to Barnes and Noble and I just raced over there on my way home. I've only read about 40 pages, but I must say BRAVA! I have already had several "aha!" moments and am looking forward to many more. Job well done!!

Posted By: Lisa  |  Wednesday Feb 15, 2006 08:17 AM   Top

Just read the book this weekend. It was painful reading our Gen-X issues. I'm (32) going through a painful break-up. The woman I love is not sure about settling with me. Reading the book helped me realized, it probably isn't about "me". It's about "us".

Posted By: Paul  |  Wednesday Feb 15, 2006 02:36 PM   Top

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